Well that’s another Bank Holiday gone. Like many other people we decided to spend it with family, my family to be precise. We had the usual fun, enlivened by trying to dodge the bullet about our decision to try for a baby in the not to distant future. Due to the possibility of needing to move house for a new job we very nearly gave the game away by saying why we would want/need a bigger place. We think our secret is safe for now – just.
During the drive to my parents my wife and I were talking about when we would like to tell our parents, friends etc. Of course, tradition dictates that we don’t tell anyone until 12 weeks after conception. So that puts my wife and I at a minimum of 4 months + 12 weeks before we can mention anything to anyone. That’s a shame really because I think that we would both like to let the cat out of the bag.
I know why the twelve week rule exists and its all very sensible and all but the point of this post is to see what other people do. When did/would you tell your family and friends that you are planning to try for, are trying for or are expecting a baby?
Now in my case, my wife will have to tell her boss at work the moment we start trying. This is due to the nature of her work – she doesn’t have a choice for health reasons. So that leaves when to tell friends and family. We decided that it would be unwise to tell anyone before we even start trying, no matter how exited we may be and hope we don’t trip up along the way.
We concluded that it might be nice to tell immediate family (parents, grandparents and siblings) over Christmas. This would be just after we start trying and should help make the Christmas holiday that extra bit special. The rest would have to wait till 12 weeks.
So, what would/did you do?